Fuyuko on relationships
Praise God for Fuyuko. We first met in January, and today we also met - it felt so good to see a JAPANESE friend again after a term so far of Taiwanese and Americans, and she is so honest and pretty amazing in her thoughts.
She split up with her boyfriend in Britain (she spent last year in Britain) as, she says, her feelings didn't match her actions, so she spent a lot of time wondering about if it was right before concluding that the poor guy didnt really know her and care for her real self. (Also, she didnt like him so much as all he wanted to do was go to the pub and prat about, by the sounds of it.) But with her new boyfriend it's quite different. She doesn't think about it so much, not because she has stopped being a thinker or assessor of who they are, but because he just suits her. They are able to discuss their thoughts and feelings and are more similar in personality. They sometime squabble - usually on the fourth day of five together, and every four months or so. But by and large she's happy.
She said she thinks the PROCESS of thinking through relationships is more important than the CONCLUSION. I must agree. Through the process, we discover more about ourselves, we can develop confidence in our decision-making skills (mine have far to develop still), and we can then live with our decisions in the light of why we chose those things.
Of course Fuyuko is not a Christian. Her actions not being in line with her feelings might well mean sleeping with her ex-boyfriend, despite not caring for him a great deal. She watches Sex and the City (a US sitcom popular around the world these days), and that hasn't got great messages of stable or celibate relationships before marriage. However, I do think she has developed a great way of thinking with regard to how she questions herself. Although as a Christian I'd also want to be asking God for his input in any situation, and also testing my thinkng and actions through the Bible, and also asking God to change me, I still think what she said about process and conclusion is very wise and I like most of her answers too.
For her job, she looks after two autistic children at a regular school. She wonders how best to help them. She trys to implement some changes - like music therepy. She's been thinking it's a shame they have to learn Japanese kanji, plus hiragana and katakana (writing symbols), as there are just so many. If it were English they had to learn, it would be much simpler to learn to read and write with just 27 letters or so. I dont know if the government can do anything about that, but I liked her thoughts about it.
She split up with her boyfriend in Britain (she spent last year in Britain) as, she says, her feelings didn't match her actions, so she spent a lot of time wondering about if it was right before concluding that the poor guy didnt really know her and care for her real self. (Also, she didnt like him so much as all he wanted to do was go to the pub and prat about, by the sounds of it.) But with her new boyfriend it's quite different. She doesn't think about it so much, not because she has stopped being a thinker or assessor of who they are, but because he just suits her. They are able to discuss their thoughts and feelings and are more similar in personality. They sometime squabble - usually on the fourth day of five together, and every four months or so. But by and large she's happy.
She said she thinks the PROCESS of thinking through relationships is more important than the CONCLUSION. I must agree. Through the process, we discover more about ourselves, we can develop confidence in our decision-making skills (mine have far to develop still), and we can then live with our decisions in the light of why we chose those things.
Of course Fuyuko is not a Christian. Her actions not being in line with her feelings might well mean sleeping with her ex-boyfriend, despite not caring for him a great deal. She watches Sex and the City (a US sitcom popular around the world these days), and that hasn't got great messages of stable or celibate relationships before marriage. However, I do think she has developed a great way of thinking with regard to how she questions herself. Although as a Christian I'd also want to be asking God for his input in any situation, and also testing my thinkng and actions through the Bible, and also asking God to change me, I still think what she said about process and conclusion is very wise and I like most of her answers too.
For her job, she looks after two autistic children at a regular school. She wonders how best to help them. She trys to implement some changes - like music therepy. She's been thinking it's a shame they have to learn Japanese kanji, plus hiragana and katakana (writing symbols), as there are just so many. If it were English they had to learn, it would be much simpler to learn to read and write with just 27 letters or so. I dont know if the government can do anything about that, but I liked her thoughts about it.
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